Alright I will make this a quick as possible..
I am a 20 years old and I have been divorced since August. My marriage was an abusive one and I had a very hard time getting out of it but eventually got the help I needed to get away. Anyways.. During my marriage I was talking with my ex quite often via internet, phone, and letters (we were talking for about a year on and off). Me and him had a very close connection back before I met my ex-husband. We had broken up because of him having to move. We both still have feelings for each other but it is a very difficult situation. He lives in Calgary, Alberta and I live in Idaho. I recently obtained my passport and had planned on going to see him in March for spring break. He is also coming to see me in January. We are unable to talk on the phone since it is fairly expensive. We chat/webcam about 2 to 3 times a week. We have been going this since August. Over the last month or two he has become withdrawn from me. We recently had a fight because he commented on his ex girlfriends facebook picture and told her how beautiful and sexy she looks. We have been some what on edge with each other since the fight.
Well.. in November my friend called me up and asked me to go on a double blind date with her so that she would feel safe and have someone she trusted with her. I attempted to get out of it but ended up feeling guilty and going.My friend told my date that I was recently out of a serious relationship and not to expect anything more than a friendship.. anyways.. This was the first date I had been on with someone other than my ex husband in five years. We went to dinner, racing, and then back to my dates house to watch a movie. The whole time my date (We will call him Joe), was very respectful and sweet. He paid for everything, opened the door for me, and helped me in/out of the race car. At the end of the night I gave him my phone number since he "wanted to make sure I got home okay" since I had to drive an hour to his town for the date. After that night we text each other often just getting to know each other. I told him about my some what boyfriend in Canada. He said he was fine with it since he was just out of a serious relationship and he is good with us being just friends.
Over the next couple weeks we have been out to dinner 4 times, to the movies twice, snowboarding, racing, just hung out at his place, watched movies at his place, had a guitar hero rock out session (haha I know! I'm a video gamer.), he met my parents, he introduced me to his friends and some of his family and he bought me an expensive Christmas present. I enjoy being around him, quite a bit actually. He texts me every morning, through out the day, and then calls to tell me good night every night. On our way home one night he told me not to get attached to him to quickly since he wasn't going to. I felt a little awkward about it since I feel like I am getting attached. anyways…
I bought him a Rolex watch and some expensive snowboarding pants for Christmas. I was so excited about the watch that I ended up giving it to him last night. He absolutely loved it. I am worried that I am falling for him and the feeling might not be mutual. I can't tell if he likes me more than just a friend. He is always so relaxed with me and we always have so much fun together.
(Please note that when I say falling for him I mean I like him more than a friend, Not that I am in love with him. I am just starting to develop feelings for him.)
Now I am wondering if maybe I moved to quick. I don't know what to do.. My some what boyfriend in Canada barely talks to me, I have a wonderful "friend" that I am developing feelings for but he may not like me like that back. Please give me some advise. I am confused and it would be nice to hear an outsiders opinion. Thanks for your help.
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