Conflict at work and at home
Posted in Uncategorized on Feb 26th, 2011 No Comments »
Conflict at work and at home
There is someone at work (male) that I use to have a great laugh with, real banter, thought he was fun and just had quite a lot in common. I am engaged and really love my partner and dont look at this other man as a sign that I would do anything but we get on really well. At work yesterday, he said to me "You are high maintenance!", I said to him, how did he get that assumption, alongside 2 others who were standing there? He carried on then saying "yeah she would be a gold digger as well" So I jokingly said, well its better than being low maintenance and can see you dont wear a rolex, so its a good job we arent going out, he blurts out "well dont worry you arent my type anyway!" (quite aggressively).
We all stood there, thinking, what happened there?
When I was working with him last time and my partner was there also, this guy made a statement that I was spending the whole day with my partner like I hadnt seen him for ages and neglected him and again I thought what on earth is he on about…..
I went home to discuss with partner, and he said well he obviously likes you and to ignore it. I said ok fair enough, went to bed, then in the morning (what a day lol) my partner was saying, "you have parked your car on the mud, you are calling the cat different names, i see a build up of cups in your office", well that was it, I said hold on a minute is that lash out at me day, isnt there anything I do right? lol, so my partner turns around and said, you cant take anything…..nothing, all because that bloke from yesterday called you that, and here you are lashing out on me! you just cant take anything.
I wasnt lashing out I just wanted peace and quiet and to be left alone this morning without someone else saying something….!!! the conversation didnt end there, when I decided to not say a word he continues, saying go on speak to someone else about this and about me and laughed!
sometimes i wonder why I tell my partner anything!!
thanks for reading….
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Your partner is clearly just concerned because this guy obviously has a thing for you and although you like him in a platonic way, you enjoy his company. You'd think by telling him about it that it would show you have nothing to hide and put an end to any concern by being upfront – well obviously not
I would just stop mentioning this guy to your partner (as it's obviously a soft spot and he doesn't want to hear about any guys laughing and joking with you – my man is the same) and otherwise give him lots of attention and in your own way tell him he's the only guy for you.
Men need to be told and reassured and don't like to feel threatened in anyway
That's my advice.
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i think that the reason you tell your partner things is because you think you can confide in him. i know one thing thing if i cant trust my partner there wouldnt be a reason for me to be with him if i cant trust them.hope this helps.